Home is Everywhere

Katie & PJ, Chris & Lizzie's wedding, August 2007

As we have discovered, no one tells you how hard it is to move in together. The little things and the big things seem so much more magnified when you see each other all of the time. Although logically I knew that our relationship would go through some changes when we moved in together, I never really thought about what those changes would be. I think the biggest one has been trying to get used to communicating with another person. I've always felt fairly independent, but still always had my friends and family around when I needed them. When you move in with a significant other, it's so much different. We've been learning how important it is for us to communicate with each other all of the time, even when it's a small issue, or even when it's uncomfortable, or when we don't want to. This has not been an easy change for me-- I'll take silence over disagreement any day (as unhealthy as I know that is), just to avoid a conflict. We're getting better at it, though. I almost feel like this was the last step that I needed for this place to feel like a home. I needed to feel like we were in this one together.

Reilly posing for the camera, 2007

Ahh, the other home. I'm SO excited to go back to New York for Thanksgiving. We're going to Corning on Thursday to visit with my family, Rochester on Friday to visit with PJ's family, and then I'm going back to Corning and PJ is staying in Rochester for the rest of the weekend. I can't wait to go eat good food and watch movies and talk with my family. I can't wait to play and cuddle with my dogs (with four dogs, it is most certainly bound to be a cuddlefest). I can't wait to hopefully spend time with Grandma, and Aunt Beth, and John. I can't wait to laugh with my friends. I haven't been home to Corning in over two months--it feels like forever. I did get to spend my birthday weekend with my friends, but I'm still so excited to see them again, since it only happens a couple of times each year. I can't wait, I can't wait, I can't wait.